Trying out a new thing. Thursday’s are now dedicated to questions submitted by readers. Since this blog quieted down due to my personal life having a monkey wrench thrown into it. (I was laid off, and then took custody of my three year old niece for three weeks back in February.)
On on to the questions:
1. To write is something that can come from many different motivations depending on the person, what was it that prompted you to put your words out there and feel that an audience may follow?
To be honest a primary reason that I started the blog, was because a lot of my friends told me that I needed to write a book about my life, and most especially my sex life. I was too lazy to start writing a book, so I figured a blog was the next best thing. I’ve never had much of a following, which is perfectly fine. It was just nice to talk about stuff that I can’t always discuss in mixed company.
2. GEEK today is a term that some wear as a badge of honor, and some use interchangeably with NERD, FANBOY or FANGIRL, and so on. You call yourself a Geek, how do you see that term, what does it mean to you, and is it distinct or decisive in it’s meaning.
In the past, I’ve gotten snobbish about people saying “I play Call of Duty, that makes me a geek.” I would turn up my nose and scoff at them, acting like some elitist. I’ve come to accept though that geek is a general term. It’s not just a pigeon-hole term for people who are passionate about science-fiction and fantasy genres.
To me GEEK is a title for those with a passion for anything outside of the social norms. It can tend to be all encompassing. If you’re passionate about something, then you’re a geek about it. NERD to me has always been more of a term (in my mind) saved for academic passions. As where FANBOY or FANGIRL is a term that is interchangeable with GEEK.
3. Sexuality and even the topic of sex in general has varying impacts from person to person. For some they close up, while others explore those topics freely. You seem to more readily associated with the latter, is there a reason that you can put your finger on that has lead to your view that it is a topic that should be discussed openly, rather than leaving it within the confines of ones personal life?
I was raised in a polyamorous naturalist household. Nudity wasn’t taboo, and we lived more communally. Sex itself wasn’t treated as taboo either, I don’t mean to say that adults were having sex out in the open, but it was something treated as normal and not sacred and to be saved for marriage or for two people alone.
Around the time that I was 12, I had my first sex ed class where they practically preached abstinence. My mother scoffed at this idea, but also strongly encouraged me to only have sex when I was ready to, and to not ever be pressured into having sex before I was ready to. It was during that discussion that I was provided with a copy of “The Joy of Sex” and it was explicitly explained to me that sex was fun, and it was a good thing when it was safe, sane and consensual.
4. When you write your blog, what is your most common end game? To entertain, to promote discussion, to challenge, or just to get out what you have weighing in your mind?
All of the above. I didn’t start this blog with any any end game in sight. I wanted to promote discussion, and let people know they’re not the only freaks online. I wanted to let people know it’s perfectly natural to be geeky and sex positive, and to have darker desires and still want a white picket fence life, or in my case a DINK (dual income no kids) life, appearing “normal” on the outside and multifaceted on the inside.
If you have questions for Savvy Geek, Madide Animus (elusive guest author), or Jedi (Savvy’s spouse); please send them to us here.